Tuesday, January 14, 2014

"Happiness, Your Heritage" - Overlap of Brene Brown and Dieter F. Uchtdorf

As I was reading my scriptures and listening to conference talks, I decided to listen to Pres. Uchtdorf, because he has a way of vocalizing the bridges and connections between the gospel and the work of Brene Brown. What she says feels true to me, and President Uchtdorf is able to back that up really well, and the Spirit confirms.

In September 2008 he gave the address "Happiness, Your Heritage" from which I'll be sharing some quotes.

First, he talks about how happiness is what we all yearn for. And what happiness is the greatest kind possible? God's happiness. So what is God's happiness? What makes Him happy? We probably can't understand everything that makes him happy, but we do know what His work and His glory is: to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man.
"Heavenly Father is able to accomplish these two great goals—the immortality and eternal life of man—because He is a God of creation and compassion. Creating and being compassionate are two objectives that contribute to our Heavenly Father’s perfect happiness. Creating and being compassionate are two activities that we as His spirit children can and should emulate." 
He then goes on to talk about both being creative and being compassionate. Both of which are focuses of Brene's work. The intention for the first week of her class is "Courage, Compassion, and Connection will be my constant companions." It's an art-journaling class, because creativity is needed to help open us up so we can practice vulnerability.

Here is a long excerpt from when he talks about creation:

The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul. No matter our talents, education, backgrounds, or abilities, we each have an inherent wish to create something that did not exist before. 
Everyone can create. You don’t need money, position, or influence in order to create something of substance or beauty. 
Creation brings deep satisfaction and fulfillment. We develop ourselves and others when we take unorganized matter into our hands and mold it into something of beauty—and I am not talking about the process of cleaning the rooms of your teenage children. 
You might say, “I’m not the creative type. When I sing, I’m always half a tone above or below the note. I cannot draw a line without a ruler. And the only practical use for my homemade bread is as a paperweight or as a doorstop.” 
If that is how you feel, think again, and remember that you are spirit daughters of the most creative Being in the universe. Isn’t it remarkable to think that your very spirits are fashioned by an endlessly creative and eternally compassionate God? Think about it—your spirit body is a masterpiece, created with a beauty, function, and capacity beyond imagination. 
But to what end were we created? We were created with the express purpose and potential of experiencing a fulness of joy.  Our birthright—and the purpose of our great voyage on this earth—is to seek and experience eternal happiness. One of the ways we find this is by creating things
If you are a mother, you participate with God in His work of creation—not only by providing physical bodies for your children but also by teaching and nurturing them. If you are not a mother now, the creative talents you develop will prepare you for that day, in this life or the next. 
You may think you don’t have talents, but that is a false assumption, for we all have talents and gifts, every one of us.  The bounds of creativity extend far beyond the limits of a canvas or a sheet of paper and do not require a brush, a pen, or the keys of a piano. Creation means bringing into existence something that did not exist before—colorful gardens, harmonious homes, family memories, flowing laughter. 
What you create doesn’t have to be perfect. So what if the eggs are greasy or the toast is burned? Don’t let fear of failure discourage you. Don’t let the voice of critics paralyze you—whether that voice comes from the outside or the inside. 
If you still feel incapable of creating, start small. Try to see how many smiles you can create, write a letter of appreciation, learn a new skill, identify a space and beautify it. 
The more you trust and rely upon the Spirit, the greater your capacity to create. That is your opportunity in this life and your destiny in the life to come. Sisters, trust and rely on the Spirit. As you take the normal opportunities of your daily life and create something of beauty and helpfulness, you improve not only the world around you but also the world within you.


Perhaps tomorrow I will post more about compassion. This post is pretty long already. To end this, I'm going to include my act of creativity that I completed yesterday:


Sunday, January 12, 2014

Brene Brown eCourse

I'm starting an eCourse by Brene Brown, and today is the first day. I figured I could use this blog as a good journal on my way, of the things I'm comfortable sharing with the world. So, be prepared, its going to be taking over my blog for a while here. =)

Every week we set an intention, so I'm gonna post mine right here.

I will keep courage, compassion, and connection on my mind and in my heart, and look for ways I can live them each day. I will be humble enough to realize their value in each situation, and also forgive myself when I fail to live them. I will seek to show courage, compassion and connection at every opportunity, and love myself through the process.

"Courage, compassion and connection will be my constant companions."

For any of my blog readers who don't know who Brene Brown is, or what her work is about... you can watch her TED talks right here. To me, they were/are life-changing. They feel completely true to me. And so important. Enjoy! (She curses now and then, but I feel that watching these videos is completely worth it!)



Friday, January 3, 2014

Happy Interviews

I love interviews where I feel happy and good about myself afterwards. What a blessing!

I've had two interviews this week, and should have at least two next week. Hoping I find an excellent fit. =)

Friday, December 27, 2013

Outlet

Since few people read my blog, I feel like this is a safe place to post things that I wouldn't post elsewhere. 

I meant to do a mandala, but I'm not feeling any colors right now. Just words. So I'm gonna call this art, and share it. 


Looking forward to the time things will finally change in this particular relationship. Gotta express myself somehow in the meantime. 

Sunday, December 15, 2013

My happiness is as deep as my gratitude

Things for Which I Am Grateful - For Which I Actually Feel Gratitude

  • I had moments of feeling truly loved by a young man this week.
  • I was able to realize how much I cared about this young man.
  • He supports me in fulfilling my dreams and following God. And he also has dreams and commandments of his own to follow, and he will.
  • I also realized how grateful I am for the Lord guiding me through the relationship I was in earlier (with Rob). God's hand is certainly guiding my life.
  • I am grateful for the true love that is shared between close friends.
  • I am grateful that school is over.
  • I am grateful that Sarah and Becca performed with me yesterday, and made a dream of mine come true (singing "Long Time Traveller" and "Parting Glass" in beautiful harmony, in concert).
  • I'm grateful for all the times Robert has had me perform at WhySound. I'm grateful for his kindness and his encouragement. He definitely has a heart full of kindness and faith, and encouraged me to believe I could do things that were scary for me. I can't express enough gratitude for that.
  • I'm grateful for the painful moments in my life, and my opportunity to learn from them, and overcome them, becoming a deeper, better, and happier person than I was before.
  • I'm grateful that God is giving me some new challenges (as I move home, prepare for internship, and also as I try to grow and be the best person I truly can, to be ready for my future), and that He'll guide me to meet them and overcome them. Powerfully.
  • I'm grateful I now have no negative feelings towards Rob's ex-girlfriend, and was able to talk to her today for the first time. She was very easy to talk to, and I really enjoyed it. My heart is at peace in that area. Which feels fantastic.
  • I'm grateful for the great people in the 43rd ward that I've come to know over the last year and a half.

Monday, November 18, 2013

Won't Stay Hidden

One of the problems with being an arts therapy student is that your homework pulls out of you the emotions you're trying to suppress!! Just let me suppress it!

Friday, November 15, 2013

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland's Talk About Depression - General Conference October 2013

This is a long post. It was my scripture study for today. I decided to pull out all the main points and say them in a simple way.

This is a wonderful talk, and important to me. I've just broken up with the man I was dating for four months, and I'm realizing that I'm having a hard time right now, and that I've been having a hard time for a while. I don't consider myself to have a consistent disorder, but some situations affect me pretty deeply, and I have some work to do. So I hope to use these things talked about by Elder Holland, and I hope it will also help anyone who reads it.

The first bullet points are my own words, and the second, or further-indented bullet points are Elder Holland's words, quoted from his talk.

So, without further ado...


How do we work through and overcome or endure depression?

  • Remember that Heavenly Father and His Son Jesus Christ suffered more than I ever have, and They did it to save me. They love me deeply.
    • Of greatest assurance in God’s plan is that a Savior was promised, a Redeemer, who through our faith in Him would lift us triumphantly over those tests and trials, even though the cost to do so would be unfathomable for both the Father who sent Him and the Son who came. It is only an appreciation of this divine love that will make our own lesser suffering first bearable, then understandable, and finally redemptive.
    • So how do you best respond when mental or emotional challenges confront you or those you love? Above all, never lose faith in your Father in Heaven, who loves you more than you can comprehend. As President Monson said to the Relief Society sisters so movingly last Saturday evening: “That love never changes. … It is there for you when you are sad or happy, discouraged or hopeful. God’s love is there for you whether or not you feel you deserve [it]. It is simply always there.” Never, ever doubt that, and never harden your heart.
  • Realize there is no shame in depression or other mental illness. It just happens. It's part of the mortal condition.
    • "These afflictions are some of the realities of mortal life, and there should be no more shame in acknowledging them than in acknowledging a battle with high blood pressure or the sudden appearance of a malignant tumor."
  • Keep up the devotional practices that bring the Spirit into my life. Scriptures, prayer, temple attendance, church attendance, blessings, serving, family history, and so forth.
    • Faithfully pursue the time-tested devotional practices that bring the Spirit of the Lord into your life. Seek the counsel of those who hold keys for your spiritual well-being. Ask for and cherish priesthood blessings. Take the sacrament every week, and hold fast to the perfecting promises of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. Believe in miracles.
  • Trust that things will get better.
    •  If those miracles do not come soon or fully or seemingly at all, remember the Savior’s own anguished example: if the bitter cup does not pass, drink it and be strong, trusting in happier days ahead.
  • Watch for stress indicators, and rest, either preemptively or as recovery.
    • In preventing illness whenever possible, watch for the stress indicators in yourself and in others you may be able to help. As with your automobile, be alert to rising temperatures, excessive speed, or a tank low on fuel. When you face “depletion depression,” make the requisite adjustments. Fatigue is the common enemy of us all—so slow down, rest up, replenish, and refill. Physicians promise us that if we do not take time to be well, we most assuredly will take time later on to be ill.
  • If things are still debilitating, seek professional help.
    • If things continue to be debilitating, seek the advice of reputable people with certified training, professional skills, and good values. Be honest with them about your history and your struggles. Prayerfully and responsibly consider the counsel they give and the solutions they prescribe. If you had appendicitis, God would expect you to seek a priesthood blessing and get the best medical care available. So too with emotional disorders. Our Father in Heaven expects us to use all of the marvelous gifts He has provided in this glorious dispensation.
  • Work on fixing one thing at a time. Celebrate small victories. Don't be overwhelmed with the size of the task.
    • If you are the one afflicted..., try not to be overwhelmed with the size of your task. Don’t assume you can fix everything, but fix what you can. If those are only small victories, be grateful for them and be patient.
  • Be patient.
    •  Dozens of times in the scriptures, the Lord commands someone to “stand still” or “be still”—and wait. Patiently enduring some things is part of our mortal education.
  • Focus on the positive things in life. Even though there is negative, there is still a lot to be happy about and grateful for.
    • Also let us remember that through any illness or difficult challenge, there is still much in life to be hopeful about and grateful for. We are infinitely more than our limitations or our afflictions! 
  • Don't give up or commit suicide.
    • Whatever your struggle, my brothers and sisters—mental or emotional or physical or otherwise—do not vote against the preciousness of life by ending it!
  • Remember that God will make everything right in the end.
    • Trust in God. Hold on in His love. Know that one day the dawn will break brightly and all shadows of mortality will flee. Though we may feel we are “like a broken vessel,” as the Psalmist says,10 we must remember, that vessel is in the hands of the divine potter. Broken minds can be healed just the way broken bones and broken hearts are healed. 
    • I testify of the holy Resurrection, that unspeakable cornerstone gift in the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ! With the Apostle Paul, I testify that that which was sown in corruption will one day be raised in incorruption and that which was sown in weakness will ultimately be raised in power. I bear witness of that day when loved ones whom we knew to have disabilities in mortality will stand before us glorified and grand, breathtakingly perfect in body and mind. What a thrilling moment that will be! I do not know whether we will be happier for ourselves that we have witnessed such a miracle or happier for them that they are fully perfect and finally “free at last.”
  • Don't worry about what other people think. By judging, they are currently doing the wrong thing, and God will teach them that eventually. They don't see things the way they truly are.
    • While God is at work making those repairs, the rest of us can help by being merciful, nonjudgmental, and kind.
    • Until that hour when Christ’s consummate gift is evident to us all, may we live by faith, hold fast to hope, and show “compassion one of another.”

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Teaching a class on blogs!

I'm teaching a class on family history blogs! Who would've known I would someday be teaching about this? Kind of fun.