My Dating Philosophy 2.0

Let me 'splain.

No, there is too much. Let me sum up:

Everybody just calm down.

Let's just have a good time. If we are not yucked out at the thought of spending time with each other, then let's go on a few fun, no-pressure dates. On these dates let's develop a friendship. And then after several dates we can decide if we want to date each other more exclusively. But how will we know whether we want to be together if we never spend any enjoyable time together?

If you ask me, I'll do my best to calm down, not get anxious, over-analytical or over-excited, and just have fun with you.

If I ask you (which I have decided I have no problem doing - other than that it's a little scary), I hope that you will not assume I'm hunting you down and trying to marry you. I hope that you will just come and have a good time with me. Be yourself, and let's see if we can have fun and be kind, and see if we enjoy each other's company.

There's a few different ways things might play out.

(1) We might go on several dates and then decide that even though we've developed a friendship, we don't want to date more exclusively. That's fine.

(2) Maybe one of us will want to and the other won't. That stinks. But it happens. And it's worth it. It's kind of part of the purpose of life. You can't live in a little bubble of emotional safety your whole life. Hearts break, hearts heal. Be brave. That's what I'm trying to do.

(3) The third option is that we do want to date more exclusively. Awesome!! Let's see where it goes from there, one day at a time.

Who's in? Let's just go have some fun.

'Cause I'll tell you one thing. There ain't no way I'll marry someone in the future that I can't laugh and have fun with. And I'm guessing you feel the same. So let's just try to do that. This is the first step.


Jason said...

I am so glad to hear someone say these types of things. I wish the world would listen up.

They say the easiest things in life are often the hardest. I believe this is one of them.

DermotCT said...

I couldn't agree with this more. When your heart is in the right place it's impossible to go wrong with dating